Disclaimer: This in no way approves of powerful men taking advantage of women in a less powerful professional situation or women who clearly have been assaulted or raped.

My comments apply to the girls who head out on a date, have a “good time” and then the next morning have buyers remorse (Ive been there, I get it). If you think you are going to feel “uncomfortable” the morning after having consensual sex a la Tinder, then act like a gentlewoman and don’t go into a man’s apartment or invite him into yours after having a few drinks.

This used to be the norm of gentlewomen everywhere and the hippy generation made it a “liberation” thing to bonk whomever you wanted whenever you wanted and not expect a ring and a date. Either save it for marriage or shut the hell up.

My advice to the guys: stop buying into the liberation line you’ve been fed. Give her a good night kiss at the door.  Go home and take care of yourself. Discern whether this is the woman with whom you want to live the rest of your life. Rinse and repeat. That way you avoid having a stupid woman who thought you loved her because you bonked her after dinner and drinks come back the next day saying “I know I said yes but I really meant no and you are an evil person.”  I’ve said yes and changed my mind and never had any decent man keep going when I said no.  Had that happened, it definitely would have been assault or rape and he would not have been a decent man.  But you can’t not even give the guy a chance to do the right thing by communicating your change of heart and then call him an asshole.  Better yet? Find out if he’s a decent man BEFORE you go to bed with him.  Even better yet? Say goodnight at the door. That’s why we have appliances.

Let’s face it hippie generation: we screwed up. We went too far. We were young. Sex is fun. Our parents were dinosaurs. Free love! This Salem Witch Hunt is a result of the blurred lines we created. There are rapists. There are Harvey Weinsteins. And there are young men being given serious mixed messages and being hurt   They are human too, not evil automatons as ultra feminists would have you believe.

And THAT is on us. We women owe it to ourselves and our daughters to not only speak up when we have been harassed but ALSO to take responsibility for how we act and respond long before the morning after.

So sick of stupidity and cowardice.